Be Positive
Stand at greater heights of Soul-confidence to win yourself as well as other's hearts.
Take every waking hour as it comes and do what you are supposed to do and complete what you're supposed to complete. Stop over-analyzing or trying to predict and plan things too far. The only constant thing in life is change. Just live in the moment and do your best.
The first step to become happy is to feel comfortable in your own skin. Everyone was born with a flaw. No one is perfect. Accept yourself with what you're born - with whether it be your background, your skin, your nose, your eyes or any other thing. You have to accept yourself for who you are and love yourself.
It is the only one fact which eliminates happiness from everyone's life - which is really very disappointing. Because if you are not comfortable in your own skin, this becomes your biggest concern that stays on the top of your mind everyday -- it kills your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and the happiness that comes from within. The relationship that you share with yourself is the most important relationship - above all other relations and if you can't make peace with your inner self, it will keep bothering your heart, mind and the soul as well.
If you find it hard - only because some other people discriminate or make judgements about you. In such cases, you need to maintain physical and mental distance from people who are shallow and narrow-minded. Better STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVITY and waste thoughts, words and actions of such other people. You are definitely better than those persons. Prove to them and to yourself that you are capable and talented in so many other ways. Surround yourself with such people who possess the same values and qualities as you have and leave behind such people who possess all negative and waste attitudes.
Teach A Man to walk with God and You Help Him solve the Rest of His Life !!
You will many a times run into unfortunate situations of life -such situations are out of your control. You can choose to feel sad, annoyed, angry or stressed about the situation or turn it around and focus on the positive parts of life. You can choose to be stuck in a bad or negative situation or let go, move on and start with a new series of positive opportunities in your life.
Let's learn from a failure or a bad experience and never repeat the same mistake. Every setback and bad situation in life teaches you something. Growth doesn't occur in comfort. You need to come out of your comfort zone to bring something great happen in your life. Take it as an opportunity to train your mind- to be stronger, more resilient, and more equipped - to be able to deal with things that life throws at you. There's a Chinese idiom - "A frog in the well" - which points out towards such people who can't / don't see the bigger picture around because of their narrow-mindedness or rather close-mindedness.
Most of the time you hold onto anger because you believe it would make the person you're mad at, upset and realize that they have done something wrong. But the fact, is that you are actually hanging up yourself on something that's burning you within. When you're mad at someone, the pain is onto yourself more than it is onto the person you're mad at. When you hate someone, the fire is within your own mind. No matter what one does to you -- hurt you, look down on you, underestimate you, backstab you, abuse you, or cheat you -- when you hold the hatred, you hold the hurt. Only when you learn to let go, you let your soul free from the pain. No matter what it was that caused them to take certain negative actions towards you, the best thing you can do is to "let go". It will be hard to do if you've never done it before. But slowly, one day at a time, be patient, let it go, forgive those who've done you wrong, you will feel that each day you get stronger and more powerful.
If you're struggling to "let go", start with meditation. Even meditation is hard because you need to control yourself. You need not think anything while meditating -- but that's the key! Being able to control one's thoughts and focus and keep one's mind at peace strengthens the mind's muscles -- this is the secret power of meditation.
The fire is only within you. The person you hate doesn't feel your hatred. "Let it go". "Let it go".
Many of us worry. We worry about our future -- about our career, health, living, finances, and about the people we love. We worry because we are scared - scared of losing them, scared of missing them. However, worrying doesn't make anything better unless we stop worrying and start taking actions towards our goals. If you're worried about your health when you get older, then you should start eating healthy and exercising regularly. If you're worried about your finances, then you should start saving up for the rainy days. If you're worried about your kids, then encourage them to take actions to help you ease your worries.
Remember that worrying about your loved ones doesn't actually make them better. It only affects your health and you. Your loved ones will need to take actions themselves. All you can do is to encourage them and help them move towards the right direction.
We don't want to accept that we are wrong because it makes us feel rejected and unaccepted. The non-acceptance of truth increases our stress and diminishes our self-confidence. And, self-confidence is equivalent to soul-confidence. With subsequent cycles of positive, negative and waste thinking process, we mingle up every aspect of our life - thus, leading to degradation of Soul-confidence. When, there is lesser quantity of soul (self)-confidence, there are more chances of losing / missing all those things / persons in our life whom we consider to be inseparable from ourselves. Here, ourselves stands for the Soul (Human Being).
